I made this petition to legally recognize non-binary genders
Amen. SIGNAL BOOST.
SIGNING AND BOOSTING, both are important!!!
ok seriously if you were one of those people making a huge deal about a nonbinary option in pokemon (esp. if you are binary/cis) PLEASE PLEASE SIGN AND REBLOG THIS IT IS ACTUALLY A BIG DEAL FOR US PLEASE
- which bathroom already
- which shoes already
- which hat already
- which coat already
- which underwear already
- where the fuck is my binder
- where the fuck is my bra
Reblogging for Aubry (I thought you might relate, maybe, just a little.)
Voltairine de Cleyre (via petitefeministe)
The best part of this essay is when she advocates for children to be brought up with no gender-role stereotyping, and gets in some not-so-subtle digs at heterocentricism and heterosexism in the process.
Did I mention this was written over a hundred years ago? Because it totally was.
How the heck have I never heard of/read this person before? *adds to winter break reading list*
Makes you wonder if we’ll ever learn.
i kind of wonder what the world would be like if the human race only had one gender, in which any person could theoretically be able to both impregnate and get pregnant, which could take away the excuse of heterosexism, but then we probably just latch onto another stupid aspect of physicality to separate ourselves.
man, we sure suck.
because I hate how tumblr “conversations” actually happen, but: are people saying that gender isn’t socially constructed because it erases trans people?
I have a feeling that this comes from a misunderstanding of what “gender as a social construct” actually means.
Yes, a lot of people are upset at how “gender is purely a social construct” gets thrown about, because there are a lot of aspects of gender, gender roles, gender performance etc. that are socially constructed but if gender itself were completely socially constructed it would mean there was nothing inherent about it. And I think a LOT of people feel they have an inherent gender identity.
I think most of the people saying gender is not (or not entirely) a social construct have a much better grasp on the notion of what a social construct is than most of the people I’ve seen claiming that it is entirely socially constructed.
The fact that that particular part of someone’s identity is called gender is also socially constructed, because language is a social construct, but if you are talking about it that way then everything is a social construct because what we call things is pretty much arbitrary if you go back far enough.
I’m the art/photography director of my campus queer magazine (Q Mag, Binghamton University) and I’m hoping to get some transgender representation into this semester’s issue. I’ve chosen to write an article that shows the diverse and varied the experiences of trans*/non-binary people with regards to (their) gender and how it has impacted them in all aspects of life. There’s more to trans* people than Chaz Bono and drag queens, and people need to see that. Transitioning/not transitioning, “passing,” how people perceive you vs. how you’d like to be perceived, the idea of feeling or presenting as “male/masculine” one day and “female/feminine” the next, just to name a few. Every trans* person’s experience is different, and I’d like to bring that to light.
I want to interview people who identify as trans*, genderfluid/queer, gender-variant, non-binary, androgynous, etc. I’ll send you some questions via email and you will have the option of answering whichever ones you’re comfortable with. I won’t ask specifics
If you’re interested, please drop a message in my ask box. Be sure to include a name and email address or other non-tumblr method of contacting you (tumblr eats my messages, I swear). All requests for anonymity will be honored, you can make up a name if you want, I just need a way of keeping track of and referencing different contributors. If I include you in the article I’ll be sure to tell you and you will have the option to request a copy of the publication. I’ll mail it wherever you want, internationally even :)
All Followers: A signal boost on this post would be greatly appreciated!
A lot of my friends have been talking about Google+, so I thought I’d check it out. It asked for my gender and when I scrolled over the options, this is what I saw….
And I silently thought to myself, “OH FUCK YEAH”
I look forward to the day when “genderqueer/gender non conforming” is listed as an option. But still, even having an other section is great. I freaking hate when websites insist on using the gender binary.
I look forward to the day when there’s a social networking website where you’re not required to disclose your gender and if you choose to you can write in whatever the hell you want—OH WAIT, THERE IS! (hint: it’s diasp.org, and it’s open source. I’m on it. Message me and I’ll answer privately with my info, we can be friends.)
I want, although I’m not sure when or if I will do this, to make a line of paper dolls that don’t all conform to the “white, thin, able-bodied, female” model. I’ve gotten positive feedback about it, but most of the people I’ve gotten feedback from so far have been from other white, thin, able-bodied, and female-identified people, although they are strongly identified with the body positivity movement.
I’ve lived in the US my whole life, and I’m worried about not being aware enough and exotifying people of non-western cultures if I try to represent them, plus my target demographic will probably be mostly citizens and residents of the US, so I was planning on making all of the dolls US residents/citizens.
My questions are: is it appropriative or otherwise culturally insensitive for a white person to profit from drawing and selling POC paper dolls (including Black, Latin@, Asian [not just east Asian/southeast Asian]-descended), as long as I try to avoid stereotyping? Would it still be appropriative if I didn’t profit from it (i.e. donating whatever funds I received from it to anti-racism organizations?)
What about an able-bodied person to profiting from drawing and selling paper dolls with physical disabilities?
What about a cisgender woman to profiting from drawing and selling trans* (including genderqueer/agender/third gender/genderfluid/etc) paper dolls?
Would it be better to write bios for the dolls so that they are closer to complete characters and let the people receiving them build on that (so that their race/color/size/gender/ability isn’t their defining feature) or to leave them as blank slates so that the recipients can completely make up their own stories about them? (I’m leaning towards the first, because 1. the demographic receiving the paper dolls will very likely have a large chunk of young able-bodied white girls who have not seen many representations of POC or people with disabilities or trans* people as fully characterized whole people in their own right, and 2. I can put in a note to the effect that the recipients may feel free to ignore my story and make up their own.)
What do y’all think? Is it okay to do this at all? If it is, are there any pitfalls you’d warn me against? Anything you’d particularly like to see?
From Binary Subverter
- You are human [unless you identify as not-human and that’s okay too you still deserve all these things -myriadrainbows]. You are worthy of respect. You deserve to be treated with the same dignity as anyone else. There is nothing inherently wrong with your gender. You are not broken, you are not disgusting, you do not deserve to be hurt.
- You’ve been brought up and live in a world that’s designed to erase and demonize your existence, you’ve probably internalized a lot of that - and that’s not your fault. But it can be hard to deal with. But you aren’t alone in dealing with it. And sometimes you have to buy into it to be able to handle it (trigger warning: transphobic violence). And that’s okay.
- Your gender is no more or less than anyone else’s. Your history doesn’t make you “not really” or “less” your gender than someone with a cis history, it just makes you a person of your gender with a different history.
- You do not deserve to be held to higher standards than cis people. You do not have to “prove” your gender by forcing yourself into societal roles that may not fit. You are not “failing” anyone by fitting into societal roles that are comfortable. It is not your job to break down the binary/patriarchy/or anything else. If you want to, go for it, but you have no obligation to do anything for cis people just because you are trans.
- Being yourself does not hurt trans rights (so long as you aren’t trying to do so while stopping others from being who they are) and is not a reason why people don’t have to treat you with respect. There is nothing wrong with being a feminine man or a masculine woman, or being a person who’s comfortable in their body, or being a person who doesn’t transition all the way, or being out about having a non-binary or genderqueer gender. You have not “failed” anyone by doing this, you are not “less” of your gender than someone else. Being who you are is not a valid argument for why people can’t treat you as who you truly are.
- No one else has the right to say your body needs to be changed. It only does if you need to change it. Or if you want to change it, that’s valid, too. Your body does not make you “less” your gender. It doesn’t make you “not really” your gender. It doesn’t mean you’re trapped in someone else’s body. You do not have to fix your body to “become” your gender - you are already your gender. All you need to do is what you need to do to to be comfortable in your body. And if that includes reclaiming your right to label your own body, you are allowed to do that.
- You have just as much of a right to privacy as anyone else. You do not need to tell anyone about your body, your medical history, or anything else. Whether or not your body needs to be changed for you to be comfortable, you do not have to change it to deserve to be treated as you are. You do not owe anyone intimate details about your personal life before you can be treated as you are.
- You have no obligation to educate anyone. This includes trans people, but is most important with cis people. You are not a walking encyclopedia of transgender and/or transsexual information, you are a person. You do not have to answer every question any cis person comes up with, you do not have to represent trans people as a whole, (see 7) you do not have to bare the most personal and vulnerable parts of your soul to other people on demand.
- Not educating people does not “hurt” trans rights. NEVER let anyone guilt you into educating people or doing something you don’t want to do by insisting that doing otherwise will “destroy trans rights/acceptance/whatever”. Trying to force trans people to become walking information desks or to put themselves in dangerous situations regardless of whether or not you’re even up for dealing with this destroys trans rights and shows a great deal of intolerance. Asserting that you don’t have to tell anyone anything you don’t want to? That really doesn’t.
- If you do want to educate people, you are allowed to set limits and boundaries. You are allowed to say that you won’t talk about certain issues, or that you will only talk about them on your terms. You are allowed to decide which people you will talk to about which issues. You are allowed to change these boundaries if you become uncomfortable educating people you were previously willing to educate. You are not obligated to educate anyone just because you educated someone else.
- You deserve to take care of yourself- whatever that means. You deserve to be comfortable and safe. You deserve not to be in dangerous situations. If you can’t handle something alone, you deserve to ask for - and get - help or, if you can, take a break from it until you can handle it. Or just stop doing it all together, that’s okay. Taking care of yourself does not make you an attention-grabber or overdramatic, it does not make you any “less” your gender, it does not mean you betray other trans people by not being a full-time (or even part-time) activist. You’re [a person], you have limits, and that’s okay.
- You deserve to have your boundaries respected. Any boundaries - how and where people can touch you, what information you give to who and when, what places you feel comfortable going or who you feel comfortable going with, what people can tell others about you.
- You deserve to have the words you are and aren’t comfortable being referred to as respected. You deserve to have the proper pronouns used (and, if there are times when it’s unsafe for that to happen, you deserve to have your safety maintained by those around you), you deserve to be called the proper name, you deserve to have the words you want used to describe your body used, you deserve not to be called by any label, pronoun, word, or name that you don’t want to be called.
- If you’re asking for something that you need to feel respected, comfortable, and safe- you are not asking for too much. Your identity is not “too complicated”. Your needs are not less important than anyone elses’.
- You are [a person]. You are worthy of respect. You deserve to be treated with the same dignity as anyone else. There is nothing inherently wrong with your gender. You are not broken, you are not disgusting, you do not deserve to be hurt.
…that so many people think that gender is absolutely and immutably defined by God and/or evolution, and at the same time think that it’s so terribly fragile that merely letting little girls play with trucks, or little boys wear pink, will utterly destroy gender (and therefore society) FOREVER.
It’s like… is anyone thinking this through?